I just need you to

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I just need you to:

  1. Give me flowers even if it is an ordinary day.
  2. Support me on whichever I plan to do.
  3. Give me time whenever you are free. Just 5-30 minutes a day.
  4. Just a text will make me smile.
  5. Include me on your future.
  6. Understand me whenever I miss you.
  7. Give me your smile.
  8. Accept me on how I look.
  9. Accept me that I am just simple.
  10. Correct me if my choice is bad on things.
  11. Call or See me whenever you are free even for a short time.
  12. Include me on your plans.
  13. Be afraid of losing me.
  14. Not keep secrets from me.Because… You don’t know how precious you are to me……Y.I. 

Intimacy ( What is it and How it really affects a Relationship? )

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For those who are currently in the same situation as me, we have one question. Who has to be blamed or should we really blame someone for it? It is not the right time to point fingers on each other but I hope that this article would make us understand what really INTIMACY is and the impacts that it can bring a relationship. I am currently happy with my relationship with a nice man but there are times that we undergo some sorts of a test on how we really deal with problems.

Intimacy has been defined as a close, familiar and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group ( Dictionary.com).  This is the bond or closeness of people to each other. Often than not, intimacy can increase or decrease over time. Emotional intimacy is a double edged sword which brings you joy but it also makes you clingy.

Being intimate or a cold fish has its roots from our childhood. It rooted on how we are brought up by our parents or the environment and society that we grew up in. Let’s look at two different scenarios of a couple named Mathew and Jenny. Jenny is the clingy one in this relationship; she is warm and talkative while Mathew is cold and distant.  They often go into stupid fights verbally or through texts.  It is easy for us to judge the situation where in we point fingers on Jenny that she has to be blamed.
But many of us weren’t so lucky in childhood, and the models of attachment we’ve been given end up dominant towards our romantic roosts, often despite our conscious desires, unless we work actively to understand them. The mental images of relationships we acquire in childhood inform our unconscious patterns of behavior, getting in the way of satisfying connections unless we do the work of understanding and disarming them:

Depending on the circumstances of the individual household, insecurely attached children adapt in different ways. Absent a reliable and stable source of caring and attunement, some people will become anxiously attached—worrying and clinging by turns, plagued by feelings of not being good enough, on the lookout for signals that things are about to go south so that they can protect themselves. Others distance themselves from the uncaring caretaker in an effort to minimize the hurt; these are the “avoidantly attached.” They can be in relationships but stay walled-off or separate in important ways; their behaviors are often confusing to their partners because even though they look as if they’re “in” the relationship, in a real sense they’re not. Large parts of them are disengaged and off-limits. They prize their independence and self-sufficiency.

Keep in mind that these categories—anxious and avoidant—are broadly drawn and that humans are more nuanced and complicated than the labels might suggest. It’s entirely possible for someone to be clingy and needy in close relationships and relatively self-sufficient and successful in career endeavors. Similarly, an avoidant in intimate settings may do well in others that don’t make the same demands on him or her, or wake the sleeping dogs of childhood, such as work environments.

Needless to say, should these two types pair up—one intent on obliterating all boundaries and the other committed to putting them in place—a classic but toxic pattern of confrontation often emerges: demand/withdraw. In this scenario, the partner making the demand evokes a response of withdrawal or stonewalling from the other, putting the couple on an ever-turning carousel. Of course, if an anxious or avoidant is paired with a securely-based individual, the same pattern can also emerge.

If your partner has complained that you’re too clingy or distant, or it’s an observation you’ve heard from others, it’s important for you to consider whether the appraisal is correct. Confronting your own patterns of behavior isn’t always easy, but it will help you achieve what you want—a relationship with the right balance of interdependence and autonomy. The key is to disarm the automatic nature of your responses.

The Good Things of Travelling in a Cheap yet rewarding way! (Philippine Edition)

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Hello there dear readers! It was a sunny day here in the Philippines and the weather started to be cooler compared from the previous months we had.

I have visited some famous tourist spots and I can say that it was fun because you can meet people from different walks of life. Their thoughts may enlighten you on how you deal with your life and eventually they can make you understand other cultures as well.

I am deeply in love with a Man named (Y.I) let’s just name him Yoshi.I. and he is now miles away from me. We have been together for almost a year now and I can say that meeting him was one of the happiest moments in my life. We have traveled together and seen things that are a little bit different from his culture. I hope that travelling together will make us understand the world and our thoughts.

Okay! Going back to the topic, travelling might be a little troublesome for some people because they have a lot of things to consider like budget, accommodation, weather and time. Travelling should not be expensive but rather affordable and simple.

You don’t need a high-class hotel if you are a frequent traveler  because you will be just staying for just a limited period of time. You are there in that place to see the beauty of nature and also the beauty of the local people.

Here are some useful Applications/websites when you will be travelling here in the Philippines.

Which I can recommend.

1. ENJOY AN AFFORDABLE ACCOMMODATION THOUGH Travel Book (http://www.travelbook.ph/) 

Why I like this website is that they provide discount prices for hotels all over the Philippines. If you are from the Philippines and you don’t have a credit card, you can pay it via over-the-counter payment through supported department stores and payment centers. All you need to do is to navigate the website.

2. Safe and Honest Transportation in Manila ( Grabataxi)

One of the things that makes tourists worry in the Philippines is safety especially for taxi cabs. Well, say hi to Grabtaxi one of the most reliable Taxi Applications.
This Taxi application is just like Uber but I haven’t used Uber so I have no idea which is better. But this Taxi Application is by far the safest one that I know. Here is the website (http://grabtaxi.com/manila-philippines/) or you can also download the application from Google Play and App Store.

You can also try riding with Doroteo Ohavo Jr. The most honest Taxi Driver in Manila. He usually roams around the night in the Quezon City area and I used to be one of his regulars especially when I had my duties in the Hospital. You can be assured that you are in good hands with this guy. You can also read all about him from this website (http://www.rappler.com/rappler-blogs/katerina-francisco/88792-honest-taxi-driver-jhun-ochavo) Just text the numbers in the Pamphlet.
Here is his Pamphlet.

3. Cheap Restaurants around Manila
All you need is to have an access through the internet to navigate different restaurants in Manila or in the Philippines you can just check those here in these websites.

ZOMATO ( https://www.zomato.com/ )


Foozap (https://www.foozap.ph/)

That’s it for now dear readers! I will be making the Part 2 of this page on the coming days. ^_^

Always remember that TRAVELING GIVES YOU NEW EYES TO SEE THE WORLD.

Make Time! Especially for the ones you love the most.

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I was browsing articles in my Facebook account and this post attracted me the most. Please take time on reading this. ^_^ 


SON: “Daddy, may I ask you a question?”
DAD: “Yeah sure, what is it?”
SON: “Daddy, how much do you make an hour?”
DAD: “That’s none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?”
SON: “I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?”
DAD: “If you must know, I make $100 an hour.”
SON: “Oh! (With his head down).
SON: “Daddy, may I please borrow $50?”
The father was furious.
DAD: “If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I work hard everyday for such this childish behavior.”

The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.
The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy’s questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?
After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down, and started to think:
Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $ 50 and he really didn’t ask for money very often. The man went to the door of the little boy’s room and opened the door.

DAD: “Are you asleep, son?”

SON: “No daddy, I’m awake”.
DAD: “I’ve been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier. It’s been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here’s the $50 you asked for.”

The little boy sat straight up, smiling.
SON: “Oh, thank you daddy!”
Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills. The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again. The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father.

DAD: “Why do you want more money if you already have some?”

SON: “Because I didn’t have enough, but now I do.

“Daddy, I have $100 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.”

The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he begged for his forgiveness. It’s just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts. Do remember to share that $100 worth of your time with someone you love? If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days. But the family and friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives. And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than to our family.

Some things are more important.

My FAVORITE BOOK in a Movie Adaptation

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Storyline

From Mark Osborne comes the first-ever animated feature film adaptation of Antoine de Saint-Exupéry’s iconic masterpiece, The Little Prince. At the heart of it all is The Little Girl, who’s being prepared by her mother for the very grown-up world in which they live – only to be interrupted by her eccentric, kind-hearted neighbor, The Aviator. The Aviator introduces his new friend to an extraordinary world where anything is possible. A world that he himself was initiated into long ago by The Little Prince. It’s here that The Little Girl’s magical and emotional journey into her own imagination – and into the universe of The Little Prince – begins. And it’s where The Little Girl rediscovers her childhood and learns that ultimately, it’s human connections that matter most, and that what’s truly essential can only be seen with the heart. Written by EJ

Release Dates :

Belgium 7 October 2015
Germany 15 October 2015
Thailand 15 October 2015
Taiwan 23 October 2015
Chile 29 October 2015
Hungary 5 November 2015
Japan 21 November 2015
Italy 3 December 2015
Portugal 3 December 2015
Greece 31 December 2015

Philippines                                           7 OCTOBER 2015 ( YEY! I’m Excited!!!)