What are you forgetting?

Life has its twists and turns and so is Love. It is like a journey to a desired destination where you gain and lose momentum. When people meet and plunge into a relationship, they are siphoned into a vacuum and confined in a different dimension.
There are stages in this dimension where Love develops positively or negatively.

The Infatuation Stage is the first stage in every relationship. It almost always starts with an intense attraction and an uncontrollable urge to be with each other. Both of you may be intensely sexually attracted to each other, or both of you may just love the cuddles and each other’s company. In this stage, both of you overlook any flaws of each other and only focus on the good sides.

The understanding stage. In this stage, both of you start getting to know each other better. You have long conversations with your partner that stretches late into the night, and everything about your partner interests and fascinates you. You talk about each other’s families, exes, likes and dislikes and other innocent secrets, and life seems so beautiful and romantic.

The Stage of disturbances.  It is the third stage where negative factors rubs your seem-to-be-unbreakable-bond into a looser one. For the first time ever in the relationship, both of you confront each other over a conflict, even though it’s sorted out quickly.

The opinion maker. In this stage, both of you create opinions about each other. As the months pass by, both of you know what to expect from each other, and you make an assumption about your partner’s commitment towards the relationship. When these opinions and expectations about your partner differ now and then in real life, it can either leave you ecstatic or depressed.  You are happy when a man makes unexpected efforts for you and there are some instances that  you get disappointed…

Whatever stages of love you are into, it always comes down in one point or one conclusion. It is whether you are will for your love or just give up and move on. People differs from one to another. As for me, I am puzzled on which way to take between fighting or giving up. There are a lot of roadblocks in my current relationship and it is like I am chasing time and the man I love. I hope he can look back and make me feel that I am also worth the attention even if I am in a difficult situation right now. I want to scream for help.. for comfort but he is busy making his own way through his life. I felt neglected or alone… but I know that someday and somehow he can look back at me that I really need his help or comfort. There are times that I want to talk to him until late at night like we used to but……things have changed. Maybe because of the demands from his work…and I am still hoping that he can still find time to at least talk to me. We are in an LDR type of relationship and it is really a challenge to catch up with him…. I hope that I can still have the energy or courage to go on and hold on to it….I want to ask him.. What are you forgetting?………

I think it is me….. you are forgetting….. please remember me…..please atleast remember me while you still have me… not remember me when I am gone… please value me while I am with you…..




I’ve talked about the struggles of someone my age residing abroad to earn a living in my recent post. In the couple of days that passed after the publication and after reading the comments and emails I received, I felt that I also have to discuss (especially for the benefit of those who have plans to go overseas) the joys of being outside my mother country. Just like anything in this world, being abroad gets its fair share of sweetness and bitterness. Truly, every cloud has a silver lining.

1. You learn more about yourself. Even during the first week of living abroad, believe me when I say that you don’t only discover new things about your new country of residence. More importantly, you unravel more details about yourself that sometimes you never knew existed. It may be because abroad you are sometimes tested to your limits by being tossed…

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In Solitude

Invariably left all alone

once more you’re crying sad

in solitude you weep and moan

feels like you’re going mad

Reminiscing the passion of

what’s now forgotten dreams

spreading sad the ashes on

what to thee vain so seems

From swirling dust we are all born

to dust we shall remain

and with it’s wicked painful scorn

life laughs won’t let you gain

They finally did come for thee

the walk in one dark row

so many things that you could be

instead you’re dying slow

Vulnerable, but still you’re strong

inclined not to give up

some things in life for you went wrong

but keep your head high up