What I’ve learned As of Now and still Learning a lot….


  • That you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

  • That no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back.

  • That it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

  • That no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

  • That it’s not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.
  • That you should never ruin an apology with an excuse.

  • That you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you’d better know something.

  • That you shouldn’t compare yourself to the best others can do.

  • That you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

  • That it’s taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

  • That you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

  • That you can keep going long after you can’t.

  • That we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

  • That either you control your attitude or it controls you.

  • That regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be
    something else to take its place.

  • That heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the

  • That money is a lousy way of keeping score.

  • That my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

  • That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down will be the ones to help you get back up.

  • That sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.

  • That true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

  • That just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.

  • That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.

  • That you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.

  • That your family won’t always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren’t related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren’t biological.

  • That it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you are to learn to forgive yourself.

  • That no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn’t stop for your grief.

  • That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

  • That a rich person is not the one who has the most, but is one who needs the least.

  • That just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.

  • That we don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

  • That you shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

  • That two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

  • That no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.

  • That even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

  • That credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

  • That the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.

  • That it’s hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people’s feelings, and standing up for what you believe.

  • That people will forget what you said, and people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.


About Rebound Relationships

A person might be considered on the rebound if he or she becomes involved in a relationship that shortly follows the ending of a previous one. Those on the rebound are assumed to have distress as a result of their prior relationship, and therefore their emotional availability is in question. Commonly it is assumed that if you are on the rebound you do not have the capacity to make good decisions about a choice of partner because your feelings about your previous partner influence your decision-making. Thus, if you are dating someone who is rebounding, you may wonder if that person is capable of emotional attachment or if you are, instead, simply a substitute for love that was lost.

Another concern of those who date rebounding people is the potential for neediness to determine the connection rather than actual interest. Certainly there are cases where a fear of being without a partner, rather than genuine attraction and emotional connection, motivates someone to immediately enter into a new relationship.

Those on the rebound may harbor resentment toward the previous partner and experience anger as a result of shame. But such negative emotions regarding a previous partner maintain a tie to them. Anger toward an ex-partner may interfere with attachment to a current one, as well as put a current partner in the uncomfortable position of competing with the ghost of what remains of the past relationship and wondering if the new partner’s interest in, or excitement about, the new relationship is enough to provide fulfillment.

In contrast, some potential partners on the rebound do not bring up the relationship that recently ended, nor do they expose any emotions surrounding the dissolution. A partner’s failure to openly discuss a previous partner does not necessarily represent an indication of continued attachment to them. In such circumstances it is often the new partner whoseanxiety about the attachment leads them to focus on the previous relationship of the person with whom he or she is involved, especially when the previous relationship is very recent history.
The rebound relationship, it is believed, takes up the space that was left by the previous relationship and provides both stability and distraction from loss rather than a working through. According to this way of thinking, a person should “get over” the loss of a relationship before moving on to the next one, which negates the potential for healing and learning that occurs within the contrast of a new relationship. A rebound relationship may mitigate the hurt, shame, and pain of a break-up. Nevertheless, when a person loses a connection, it is through connecting that recovery takes place. Focusing on someone new, according to the limited research on the subject of rebound relationships, can help a person recover from a break-up (Spielmann, S., Macdonald, G., & Wilson, A., 2009). This does not necessarily mean that the new relationship is valued less than the previous one. In fact, the new relationship can prove to have far greater worth than the previous relationship since it is through the comparison of need satisfaction that fulfillment is judged. Time between relationships is not necessary for psychological well-being. People need connection, and moving on can help you get over what has to be left behind.


Spielmann, S., Macdonald, G., & Wilson, A. (2009). On the rebound: focusing on someone new helps anxiously attached individuals let go of ex-partners. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 35, 1382-1394.


Hold your Tongue.. Hold your Heart

Don’t lose your love just because of a slip of the tongue.

A girl in love asked her boyfriend.
Girl: Tell me. Who do you love most in this world?
Boy: You, of course!
Girl: In your heart, what am I to you?

The boy thought for a moment and looked intently in her eyes and said, “You are my rib. It was said that God saw that Adam was lonely, during his sleep, God took one of Adam’s rib and created Eve. Every man has been searching for his missing rib, only when you find the woman of your life, you’ll no longer feel the lingering ache in your heart.”

After their wedding, the couple had a sweet and happy life for a while.

However, the youthful couple began to drift apart due to the busy schedule of life and the never-ending worries of daily problems, their life became mundane.

All the challenges posed by the harsh realities of life began to gnaw away their dreams and love for each other. The couple began to have more quarrels and each quarrel became more heated.

One day, after the quarrel, the girl ran out of the house. At the opposite side of the road, she shouted, “You don’t love me!”

The boy hated her childishness and out of impulse, retorted, “Maybe, it was a mistake for us to be together! You were never my missing rib!”

Suddenly, she turned quiet and stood there for a long while. He regretted what he said but words spoken are like thrown away water, you can never take it back. With tears, she went home to pack her things and was determined in breaking-up.

Before she left the house, “If I’m really not your missing rib, please let me go.” She continued, “It is less painful this way. Let us go on our separate ways and search for our own partners.”

Five years went by…

He never remarried but he had tried to find out about her life indirectly. She had left the country and back. She had married a foreigner and divorced. He felt anguished that she never waited for him.

In the dark and lonely night, he lit his cigarette and felt the lingering ache in his heart. He couldn’t bring himself to admit that he was missing her.

One day, they finally met. At the airport, a place where there were many reUNI0Ns and good byes. He was going away on a business trip. She was standing there alone, with just the security door separating them. She smiled at him gently.

Boy: How are you?

Girl: I’m fine. How about you? Have you found your missing rib?

Boy: No.

Girl: I’ll be flying to New York in the next flight.

Boy: I’ll be back in 2 weeks time. Give me a call when you are back. You know my number. Nothing has changed.

With a smile, she turned around and waved good bye.

Good bye…

One week later, he heard of her death. She had perished in New York, in the event that shocked the world.

Midnight, once again, he lit his cigarette. And like before, he felt the lingering ache in his heart. He finally knew. She was the missing rib that he had carelessly broken.

Sometimes, people say things out of moments of fury. Most often than not, the outcome could be disastrous and detrimental. We vent our frustrations 99% at our loved ones. And even though we know that we ought to “think twice and act wisely”, it’s often easier said than done.

Things happen each day, many of which are beyond our control. Let us treasure every moment and everyone in our lives.

Tomorrow may never come. Give and accept what you have today.

91 Truths about LOVE

1) love is when you get each other.

2) Keep the lessons and love of the past let the rest go

3) The path of love transforms us.

4) Learn to love what you have rather than have what you love

5) In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities— James Arany

6) God tells us to love one another because he knows it’s joy

7) I cannot withhold my love anymore than the sun can withhold it’s light

8) Foul play is fair in love and war

9) Love, pain, and money cannot be kept secret; they soon betray themselves. Spanish Proverb

10) How strange that justice and love are both blind

11) Never love with all your heart, it only ends in breaking.
English Proverb

12) Love is but one ingredient in the making of a relationship

13) Love makes good mortar, but poor brick

14) A relationship cannot stand on the mortar of love alone

15) Love is doing for another what another wants done for them

16) The world would be better if it focused on having love and making sex

17) You can take love with you

18) Love is the most vestal word in the dictionary

19) Love bought with money can be repurchased with more money

20) A mistress is the validation that sex often wins over love

21) Many a sexual encounter occurs in the name of love

22) Both sex and love run hot and cold, when you have both you improve your chances of being warm

23) When I love something I take care of it — Heather Carle Agid

24) When we love someone we take care of them

25) Love delights the senses

26) Love blinders blackout all others

27) Love see’s beyond the physical

28) One does not lose love, but rather love loses them

29) Love gets lost when one ceases to watch over it

30) To keep love from getting lost one must continue to clear away the path

31) The first symptom of love in a young man is shyness; the first symptom in a woman, its boldness.”

32) “The love of a family is life’s greatest blessing

33) You learn to like someone when you find out what makes them laugh, but you can never truly love someone until you find out what makes them cry.”

34) The language of love is often silent

35) We are indeed all brothers and sisters, and like brothers and sisters there are degrees of love and hate

36) Love others as you would love your animals

37) Be that love is blind, one must listen for love rather than looking for love

38) One would do better listening for love

39) Love touches the untouchable

40) Love answers to no one and speaks louder than words

41) Love lights the flame and warms the heart

42) More battles have been won with love than with the sword

43) Love conquers death

44) Love- the strongest force on earth

45) Space and time do not exist for lovers

46) Love has a frequency that often only the loved one can hear and a vibration that only the loved one can feel

47) Love listens intently, speaks kindly, sees uniquely and touches deeply

48) If you can go all the way to love go half way and be their friend

49) New love is blind, and real love comes when the blinders are removed from the new love and one still love what one sees

50) If does not exist with unconditional love

51) Love is knowing when to hold on and when to let go

52) The joy of friendless is exceeded only by the joy of love

53) Total and complete love lives in one’s heart soul and mind

54) Real love defies all it’s definitions and comparisons

55) The best lover a man can have is his wife

56) Do not allow the weeds of discontent to choke out love

57) Love touches all senses

58) The best way to keep your heart from being stolen is by giving the key to your heart to your loved one to protect

59) Tough love when you do not let your need for being loved keep you from doing what is right

60) Love is when two heart beat for each other

61) Love is when a heart makes another heart sing

62) You know it’s love when your heart tells you so

63) Love loves love

64) A man guided by love is never lost

65) One must give love to make love

66) For a man making love is the best way a woman can give and for a woman giving love leads to making love

67) Love knows no buts

68) love is but a form of insanity, and it knows no bounds

69) love knows no language barriers

70) when love speaks, the lover listens

71) one act of love is worth more than 1000 words of love

72) the power of love—it warms the heart, brings on smiles, and heals wounds

73) People say love is blind. That is because love sees with the heart and not the eyes

74) love is like an X-ray it sees beneath the surface

75) The love of a good woman is a gift, the love of a good woman who is bad is an even greater gift

76) Love comes to live when you replace the I with o

77) Love happens when I is no longer needed for one to live

78) Love is the greatest of the four letter words

79) The people that are the hardest to love are usually the people that need it the most

80) Love— courage in action

81) Blindness is what makes justice and love work

82) Using love is like using people, and giving love is like giving to people

83) Our culture is loose with using the word love and tight with giving love

84) The most loved thieves are the ones that steal your heart

85) True love when you light each other’s torch

86) The trouble today is that too many people are willing to gamble in love, rather than investing in it

87) The road to heaven is paved with love and service

88) Some people believe love is something to use, rather than something to give

89) If all is fair in love and war then how can we have war crimes

90) Love alone does not conquer all things.

91) Kindness, trust, patience, honor and respect are in the army of love needed to conquer all things

Genka Bar, where your drinks never cost more than what they’re worth!



Friday night means going out for a drink with your buddies from the office or your favorite classmates. It also means a large chunk of cash is missing from you wallet when you wake up with a pounding headache on Saturday morning. As much fun as a night on the town is, it’s often ridiculously expensive–especially in Tokyo! And it doesn’t help things that bars and restaurants love to mark up their drinks by…well, a lot. If only you could get your booze and snacks at cost.

Well guess what, thirsty and hungry readers? You can at the Genka Bar! At least, that’s what they claim. We sent one of our Japanese writers to find out the truth. Check out the results below.

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